Most of us have some horrifying memories that haunt us from time to time. All of us suffer; we suffer badly.
But things don’t have to be like that – we need to let go of the past behind us and move.
We all have heard these words hundreds of times from everyone around us. But it’s easier said than done.
Still, we need to try; we need to learn to move on.
Today, we will take sneak peek at the matter and learn about why letting go seems so hard and what can we do about it.
What Makes Letting Go So Tough?
The way we romanticize about the things we love, we tend to do the same with the things that hurt us the most. We revisit the haunting memories so frequently that they become a part of us.
Soon, it becomes a habit – not a conscious but unconscious habit.
The harsh reality is that we start to define ourselves based on those bad memories. Our low self-esteem and under confidence provoke the thought every time revisit the memory.
Some of us even get addicted to sadness.
So, the biggest fight you will have to fight is against yourself. You will have to over and over again that you are past the bad memories.
While fighting yourself in your mind, tell yourself the following things. It will help.
You can finally have the freedom relieved from the shackles of your imaginary prison. There is a big chance of having a better relationship with the loved ones surrounding you and yourself. It will help you achieve personal growth.
Suggestions to Follow to let Go of the Things in Past –
Take the Blame
If your past is haunting yourself, always take the blame on yourself. If you blame others for your misfortune, you will hold a grudge and try to seek revenge.
Grudge and revenge are even stronger than grief and last longer.
Moreover, you will be taking control of things rather than depending on the actions of others.
Make a Decision
Everything depends on your intent. If you truly intend to let go of the past, you will eventually do it.
Such bold statements have a magical impact on our brain.
Actually, you should write down the statement too, not once, but every day. If you continue this habit for long enough, you will begin to see the impact in your daily life.
Surround Yourself with Good Company
It’s best to change your surroundings. If you can move to a different city and start living a new life. If you remain in the same environment, things will never improve. Everything connected to that incident will haunt you. It will better to make new friends and have new activities.
Turn the Sorrow to Your Strength
Soon you will learn that life is nothing but a journey of having experiences. Each of the experiences shapes up our personalities.
I know it’s very hard, but try to take the whole sad experience as a life lesson. Try to see what life is trying to teach us. If you can manage to do so, your sorrow will become your strength.
The sad memories damage our inner selves – we feel shattered. Meditation can help you reconstruct your inner self piece by piece. It will take a lot of time, but trust me; it gets better; it gets better every day!